Amanda B.

Photography by Ally Szabo

If you’re reading this, it’s ok to take time to care for yourself.

From a young age, I have always been on the go; trying to stay as busy as possible and squeeze out every minute of the day. I always thought that was how I was naturally tuned to function– to be an “energizer bunny”, as my family calls me. I eventually learned that being constantly busy is not necessarily a good thing. The business and daily distractions meant that I neglected my mental health.

It is hard to manage your mental health in the fast-paced environment at college. It is a major learning curve. While I love being an active member of the community, a hard-working student, and a social butterfly, I realized I couldn’t do it all. I hit a breaking point with my mental health. Something needed to change. This semester, I have tried to listen to my needs and prioritize my well-being. Sometimes that means going on a walk while studying, staying in when your friends are going out, going to bed early, or having a daily routine. It’s ok to take a break and take a step back from the business of college. Breaks are productive for your well-being.

For the first time in years, I felt like an internal void was filled, and I had found myself again. Admittedly, I still have hard days, but now I know when to step back, slow down and take a deep breath. It can be hard to say no and set your boundaries. But it’s ok to do what is best for you. Your true friends will stick by your side and support you no matter what.

Remember to make time for yourself. Because you are a priority. Self care is not selfish. You can’t help others when you don’t help yourself. You deserve all of the love and care that you give to others.

Amanda B., Villanova University

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