Duren C.

"If you're reading this, all it takes is 10 seconds." 

That's what my mom told me as I headed off to Clemson; a phrase that has stuck with me ever since, borrowed from Matt Damon's character in "We Bought a Zoo." As a freshman, those 10 seconds felt like an eternity. I was terrified, alone, and unsure of where I belonged.

My first few weeks were tough. I had roommates who didn't align with my values, and I felt isolated and out of place. Deciding it was time to step out of my comfort zone, I attended a soccer game I had seen advertised on campus. The sheer number of students in attendance was overwhelming, almost to the point of making me want to leave. But then, the infectious sound of drumming and cheering washed over me. I found myself being drawn to this rowdy, rambunctious group of students. 'This is it,' I thought to myself, 'this is my 10 seconds.' And with that, I took a deep breath and stepped into the crowd.

Over the past three years, I've not only found incredible friends in this group of students but also a sense of belonging that I never thought possible. I've been able to grow as a person, both academically and socially, thanks to those 10 seconds of bravery. I joined Central Spirit, the student club I was so intrigued by during those first weeks of college, and now I find myself in a leadership position, welcoming new students to the club any chance I get. I know firsthand how it feels to be new, unsure of what comes next, and not knowing anyone around. This is why I try my best every day to make those 10 seconds less daunting and more inviting for every freshman I meet.

To anyone reading this, please know that you are not alone. There are people out there who are waiting to connect with you, just as I was. All it takes is a little courage to reach out. Remember, those 10 seconds can change your life. They have shaped my college experience, and they can do the same for yours.

So, take a deep breath, step outside your comfort zone, and find your 10 seconds of bravery. Whether it's joining a club, attending a social event, or simply striking up a conversation with a stranger, those 10 seconds can lead to lifelong friendships and unforgettable experiences.

I want to give a special thanks to my mom for her wise words. Her advice has been invaluable, and I'm forever grateful for her support. That one little phrase freshman year has meant more to me than you could ever imagine. It's a reminder that even in the darkest of times, there is always hope and opportunity waiting just around the corner.

Duren C., Clemson University

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