Professor Cheryl Edley-Worford
Photography by Nia E. J0nes
If you’re reading this, know that you are loved, unique, special, and a one-of-a-kind creation.
There will never be another you! I’ve found that comparing myself to others is useless, because I am not (and will never be) them. Rather, comparing myself to a realistic, attainable, ideal version of myself is a worthy goal. I’m thankful for who I’m created to be—in spite of weaknesses, limitations, faults, mistakes, and regrets. My goal is to grow closer and closer to my ideal self. Reaching this goal is only possible through my relationships with other people.
The importance of my relationships became apparent during my first semester of college when I was homesick, lonely, and sad. My assigned roommate was a ‘no show.’ I have never met her. Being away from home for the first time, in a new state, and without a roommate was painful. My grades suffered, my choice of major suffered, and my mom likely suffered from hearing my constant complaints about my situation. One weekend my mom visited and I was no longer homesick, lonely and sad. My calculus grade soared immediately after her visit. But, she had to return to her teaching job and was only with me for the weekend. Once again, I felt alone.
Eventually, I overcame my feelings of aloneness by joining various student organizations and forming close relationships with fellow students. The first group I joined was the Gospel Choir which reminded me of my home church’s youth choir that I participated in. I also joined the Black Student Alliance which helped me adjust to this ‘strange new world’ called college. Attending weekend dance parties with friends motivated me for Friday night study trips to the library before ‘party time.’ I later joined a modern dance troupe, a mock sorority, a study group, a campus ministry, etc. My involvement in student organizations led to close friendships for me. I was no longer chronically homesick, lonely, and unhappy.
Since college, I’ve sought professional counseling and joined numerous support groups to help face life’s difficulties. I believe strongly in the power of interpersonal relationships to promote mental health. I view seeking help as a sign of strength. VCU offers an impressive abundance of resources for students and staff. I encourage you to seek, find, and utilize the resources most beneficial to you. In the process, I trust that you will find friends who help you weather the storms of life and celebrate the uniqueness of you!
Professor Cheryl Edley-Wordford, Virginia Commonwealth University
Adjunct Faculty for the Honors College
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